Is spanking or corporal punishment a part of your submission?
Yes, Sir spanks me and we enjoy other forms of impact play. So it’s a part of our play, but Sir would never use spanking as a form of punishment. It would be terribly ineffective…
Do you accept punishment as part of your submission? How do you feel about it?
If Sir feels that I’ve done something deserving of punishment, he will address it and discipline me as he sees fit. Obviously I don’t enjoy punishment, but I understand that it is sometimes necessary and I accept it as Sir acting in my best interest.
What do you feel are the roots of your submission? Do you feel it has something to do with your childhood?
I don’t really have a good answer to this. I never had a traumatic experience or anything that directly led me here. However, I do think that certain factors in my upbringing may have shaped my preference for submission. That’s a story for another day though.
I answered a similar question here that I think goes well with this.
Have you been or are you in a Dominant/submissive relationship?
The short answer is yes, I am currently in a D/s relationship with Sir. That being said, I’m still fairly new to the kinky world and I’m not ashamed to admit I still have a lot to learn. Sir and I are taking our relationship to a whole new level in the next few days so I’m sure there will be a lot of adjusting and possibly some changes that need to be made. We’re both still exploring and deciding what works for us and I’m excited to see how our relationship evolves.
Do you “switch” into a Dominant role at any time?
I’ve never held anything that even resembled a Dominant role in a relationship. I’ve always stepped down and let the man make the decisions while I’ve focused on pleasing him. Obviously with Sir that characteristic has turned into a formalized dynamic between us, but like I said, it’s always been there. So I guess the answer is no. I’m not a “switch” and I don’t desire to take on a Dominant role with anyone, and especially not Sir. One thing I am curious about is perhaps topping another woman. In the, albeit few, experiences I’ve had with other women, I’ve always felt more in control. It wasn’t anything I really acknowledged at the time, but I enjoyed feeling like I was leading and giving direction.
How do you know you are submissive or have the potential to be submissive?
It’s not really something I would say I know, more like something I feel. There was no one single event that indicated to me that this was something I wanted or needed. My relationship with Sir is something I stumbled upon, but now that I’ve found him, everything makes so much sense and I have no intentions of looking back… Serving him is something I need to do.
Describe who you might submit to. Are you exclusively submissive in marriage, just in the bedroom, only in the context of a scene, etc.?
I am submissive only to Sir and only within the context of our relationship.
While I like doing for others, I am not naturally submissive and it takes a certain something to inspire that trait in me. I’m not sure what that something is but I’ve found a sense of wholeness and satisfaction in my relationship with Sir that I’ve never felt before.
Does your submission (either what you practice or what you strive for) have a label? Do you view your submission as Taken in Hand, Domestic Discipline, top/bottom, Dominant/submissive, Master/slave, Owner/pet, or some other description? If you do not use a label, why?
I generally am not a fan of labels, but Sir and I consider our relationship to be D/s. I think it most accurately describes the dynamic we have. The plan is that when I move we’ll adopt more structure than we’ve realistically been able to maintain in a long distance arrangement. Only about a week until we can truly begin working towards that. :)
I think I’m gonna do 30 Days of Submission. Okay? Okay.